Replace the Meaningless with the Meaningful
Updated: Apr 13, 2022
As we age, we tend to realize just how much time we have wasted on nonsense, and we start to refocus on what truly matters. Perhaps because I have reached the point where I have more years behind me than I have ahead of me, I have less time for needless drama, worry, chaos, petty disagreements, and false busyness. Too often we live our lives as a bystander, acting as if we have no control over our choices and forgetting that this exact moment IS our life. What are you choosing to fill your life with?
As a Life and Wellness Coach, I often hear “I’m too busy”, whether we are talking about self-care, going for a walk, planning and prepping healthy meals or staying connected with friends and family. We run from one meeting or scheduled event to the next, only to get through the day and or to check things off our “to do” list. And then we wonder why we are unhappy, stressed, and exhausted. We never seem to give 100% of our attention to any one thing in our life—we are partially engaged in everything we do.
When was the last time you gave 100% of your attention to a project or a person? If you suffer from the “busy” disease, ask yourself if you are busy doing what is truly important and meaningful to you. Many times, it takes a life-threatening illness or catastrophe to put our priorities in perspective, but we have the choice in each moment to choose differently. How much of your precious time do you spend on social media? Are you over-scheduling your calendar? Are you allowing others to dictate what you “should” be doing with your time? Do you have trouble saying no? Are you waiting for that magical day in the distant future when you have time to focus on your own health and wellness? We all have limited time in the day, the week, the year, and our lives and, for the most part, we get to choose how we want to spend that precious time.
If you have found yourself in this trap, consider taking the time and space to learn what brings your life meaning and joy. Try watching the wonder of your children at play without glancing at your phone or letting your mind wander to yet another thing you feel you must do. Sit in a meeting without trying to multitask and be fully present with your clients or colleagues. When having lunch with a friend or with your family, listen--deeply listen to what is being expressed. If you have people in your life who are not lifting your heart and soul, it may be time to move on. When on your walk in the woods, use all your senses to experience its beauty. When you are with someone, give them the gift of your full presence. Whether you spend your precious time on the meaningless or the meaningful is a choice you get to make each moment.
Blessings and Live with Meaning,